Resilience refers to the ability to recover after a change, specially when it is a bad experience. Resilience has to do with coping with stressing situations, handle the unexpected and, of course, ask for help when necessary. Despite our best efforts, we cannot prevent adversity and daily stress; but we can learn to be more resilient by changing how we think about challenges and adversities. Now that the new school year begins, our wish is that more children can show their strength with confidence and are able to enjoy life.
Here are some ideas to help our children cope with difficult situations:
1-Parents and teachers need to teach children appropriate behaviour and procedures as well as consequences of inappropriate behaviour. Of course, consequences are meant to be other teachers, not create misery that won't be easily erased. It is very important to have both, behaviour and consequences very clear, otherwise our children will be confused.
2-Don't provide too much comfort, we could be interfering with our kids ability to develop their problem-solving. This point has to do with self-confidence. Let them make mistakes, sometimes these are fantastic tools to improve.
3-Allow your kids take age-appropriate risks, teach them essential skills, this helps them learn their limits and be ready to learn more.
4-Don’t provide all the answers to your kids, instead, make them think how to solve the problem. Sometimes adults think that children are not strong enough to cope with difficult situations. Let’s give the opportunity to show how brave they can be.
5-Don’t show anxiousness, not only you will make them feel the same, but you will also slow down their learning.
6-Overview of stress. As an important tool that can aid in our survival, stress is the combination of a stressor and our reaction to it. Sometimes, our daily routines present us with situations which need a reaction and can provide mental alertness, motivation and efficiency.
7-Help them manage their emotions; not everything is correct but their feelings are there, so they should know which are good or bad and act consequently.
8-Children need to realize that their contribution to the world is important, our task is to make them know how they can improve it. We should create or find opportunities for them to contribute to a better world. In fact, if we do so, we are creating a better world.